The other day I wrote a post about the challenges of vulnerability and why it can be so hard for us.
Funnily enough, this morning I was really in touch with my vulnerability.
I realised that once we give space to our resistances (as I did in my post) then something can shift and open.
It’s not enough to say: be vulnerable.
We need to respectfully and sincerely look at our resistance to vulnerability before we can move past it.
If we have previously shared our feelings with someone, and been hurt or rejected by them, it’s understandable that we will feel reticent about sharing deep feelings again.
Resisting our resistances is like using sandpaper to get rid of a scratch. It enflames the whole area.
Vulnerability is about including our resistances to it.
It includes feeling conflicted, angry, unsettled or anxious about being vulnerable.
There is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way to be vulnerable.
Vulnerability is not always going to be about being soft, tender and open. Sometimes it will be about owning our capacity for rage, hate or resentment. Other times it will be about going to town with our joy.
Vulnerability is what we feel when we go to our edges.
Being open with ourselves means being open to a whole gamut of emotions and reactions.
Often we feel like we need to fix ourselves when we’re feeling vulnerable. We quickly try to mop up the tears, or erase any signs of ‘mess’ from our lives.
We need to learn to do the very opposite.
We need to learn to get out of our own way.
The ‘mess’ we are trying so desperately hard to hide or erase is the vital creative energy, that can, if we allow it, shake up our lives and produce real change.