This is for anyone who has a challenging relationship with food right now

This is for anyone who has a challenging relationship with food right now | Louise Gulley, Relationship Counselling & Psychotherapist in Sevenoaks, Kent

Having any kind of challenge around food is really difficult. We can’t go teetotal on food (not without severe circumstances) so it’s something we tend to struggle with at least three times a day. This adds to how torturous and endless it feels to have an eating disorder. When we are experiencing a difficulty with […]

The art of friendships

The art of friendships | Louise Gulley, Relationship Counselling & Psychotherapist in Sevenoaks, Kent

We are imperfect creatures.We forget what our friends told us.We talk about ourselves too much.We ask about others too little.We expect too much from others. And in spite of this we still balk at THEIR oddness.“God, look at her jabber on”.When in reality we all have our own brand of oddness. In this way we […]

What were usually missing when we talk about assertiveness

What were usually missing when we talk about assertiveness | Louise Gulley, Relationship Counselling & Psychotherapist in Sevenoaks, Kent

I’m really passionate about assertiveness. I’ve witnessed the ways in which it can be transformational in a person’s life, leading them to: – feel more empowered.– ask, and get more of what they want.– create more change in their life, such as finding a job where they’re more valued. There’s another huge benefit of assertiveness […]

Make time for pleasure its truly the best thing we can do for ourselves

Make time for pleasure its truly the best thing we can do for ourselves | Louise Gulley, Relationship Counselling & Psychotherapist in Sevenoaks, Kent

I think that experiencing pleasure has become an act of rebellion in our society.We often discount spending timelustfully enjoying food; telling silly stories with our friends; or hanging out with our families or partners.It’s considered a wastenot an effective use of time.So many of us sadly have so much guilt about these pleasures,that we’re never […]

The Dark Goddess Series III: For the Women who refuse to play small.

The Dark Goddess Series III: For the Women who refuse to play small | Louise Gulley, Relationship Counselling & Psychotherapist in Sevenoaks, Kent

Here’s this Friday’s Dark Goddess Series for the Women who Refuse to Play Small. Enjoy! The Dark Goddess twinkles with self awareness,but she doesn’t need to be in this state in a composed way. She has a dirty, loud laughwhich she regularly uses to chuckle at life’s challenges and her own shortcomings.She is a goddess […]

Calling all Women: why we need to acknowledge we’re different to men.

Calling all Women: why we need to acknowledge we’re different to men | Louise Gulley, Relationship Counselling & Psychotherapist in Sevenoaks, Kent

Today, I felt like doing a different kind of post.Especially for women.On something I’m really passionate about. It’s about acknowledging our differences to men.I think that because we’ve fought so hard for equalitywe’ve had to erase the parts of our experience that ‘complicate’ the debate,or sadly, issues that can be used against us.Such as, the […]

The Dark Goddess Series II: For the Women who refuse to play small.

The Dark Goddess Series III: For the Women who refuse to play small | Louise Gulley, Relationship Counselling & Psychotherapist in Sevenoaks, Kent

Here’s my Friday edition on the dark goddess archetype. It is my hope that in reading about this archetype that you may find her embers still burning within you, and have the permission, and daring to bring more of her into your life. She is a wonderful respite to the victimhood, passivity & depression that […]

The Dark Goddess Series I: For the Women who refuse to play small.

The Dark Goddess Series III: For the Women who refuse to play small | Louise Gulley, Relationship Counselling & Psychotherapist in Sevenoaks, Kent

Today, and every Friday (until I run out of ideas), I’m going to be posting extracts/descriptions of the dark feminine, or dark goddess archetype. Think sassy, untamed, free & empowered. It is my hope that in reading about this archetype that you may find her embers still burning within you, and have the permission, and […]