Sometimes we berate ourselves for not being “strong” or for not “handling” a challenging situation. Perhaps we broke down, or our anger rose to the surface for just a moment. We make ourselves wrong for doing something truly healthy and self affirming. Being in touch with our feelings. If someone has hurt us, feeling hurt … Continue reading

Fear of Flying: what does it mean & what can it teach us?


It’s the season for flying, and for some of us it’s also when a great deal of anxiety arises. I took a flight a few weeks ago, and although I won’t go as far as to say I have a fear of flying it provoked some anxiety. We are entrusting our lives to pilots, people … Continue reading Fear of Flying: what does it mean & what can it teach us?

Why do I keep trying to control everything? (I know, it’s exhausting isn’t it!)


Many of us come to believe that we can control events & other people. This is not that unusual, it is after all how we first started to relate to the world as children. It’s an essential child developmental stage known as magical thinking. We see it in the little boy who jumps up and … Continue reading Why do I keep trying to control everything? (I know, it’s exhausting isn’t it!)