Sometimes we berate ourselves for not being “strong” or for not “handling” a challenging situation. Perhaps we broke down, or our anger rose to the surface for just a moment. We make ourselves wrong for doing something truly healthy and self affirming. Being in touch with our feelings. If someone has hurt us, feeling hurt … Continue reading
It’s the season for flying, and for some of us it’s also when a great deal of anxiety arises. I took a flight a few weeks ago, and although I won’t go as far as to say I have a fear of flying it provoked some anxiety. We are entrusting our lives to pilots, people … Continue reading Fear of Flying: what does it mean & what can it teach us?
We often ask ourselves. Does my anger make sense? Am I justified to feel upset? We make our reality contingent on the reality of another person. The moment we do this we lose connection with our deepest and truest self. It may be small, but it is a betrayal. We are telling ourselves that the … Continue reading
Many of us come to believe that we can control events & other people. This is not that unusual, it is after all how we first started to relate to the world as children. It’s an essential child developmental stage known as magical thinking. We see it in the little boy who jumps up and … Continue reading Why do I keep trying to control everything? (I know, it’s exhausting isn’t it!)
Power is often exclusively understood as the ability to overcome someone or something. What if there was ALSO another kind of power that we need in order to be truly powerful? If this kind of power had a buzz word, it would be *surrender*. Take an emotion, such as anxiety. The forceful power, the one … Continue reading
Some of us may decide we need to be bolder, which is about taking risks more. For others of us, it could also be just the opposite, we need to learn to be more reflective before we act. No one size fits all. Often we need both. It’s about using these capacities with balance and … Continue reading The Importance of Boldness