Why surviving a challenging situation without crying or expressing anger is not enlightened
Sometimes we berate ourselves for not being “strong” or for not “handling” a challenging situation. Perhaps we broke down, or our anger rose to the surface for just a moment. We make ourselves wrong for doing something truly healthy and self affirming.Being in touch with our feelings. If someone has hurt us, feeling hurt is […]
Living your emotional truth
We often ask ourselves. Does my anger make sense? Am I justified to feel upset? We make our reality contingent on the reality of another person. The moment we do this we lose connection with our deepest and truest self. It may be small, but it is a betrayal. We are telling ourselves that the […]
The Importance of Slowing Down
This quote really speaks to me at the moment. And I’d go even further.I believe that in order to feel nourished spiritually, emotionally & mentally we need to slow down. Really slow down.This means walking beside our experiences in life.Not behind them.Not in front of them.Instead confronting and feeling them directly.This includes the moment in […]
How to Manage Difficult Feelings (It’s the opposite of what we’ve always thought).
Our emotional world is intricate and demanding. It holds the potential for a whole range of feelings, from love & joy to despair & anxiety. One of my core beliefs is that we cannot selectively choose which emotions to experience. If we avoid one feeling, we miss them all. It’s like spending our whole lives […]
A Note on Valentine’s Day & Love
Valentine’s Day is traditionally an occasion when we express our love for one person, our significant other. What if we expanded our love to encompass more than one person, so that it became a loving consciousness that includes many humans (including and especially ourselves) as well as animals, insects, plants and trees – the whole […]
The highs and lows
Positive thinking says that if we believe we’re amazing, we’ll be just that – amazing, and that we will be able to create great things. This kind of thinking often only creates a hangover. The kind of hangover you have when you’ve polished off a couple of bottle of wines. In thinking so high, so […]