Why defending ourselves doesnt work ever
Defensiveness is an attempt to prevent an attack, but in doing so, actually creates one. Defensiveness is when we’ve not bought our partners the bananas we promised we would (some people really are that passionate about bananas), and they gently ask us if we’ve got them, and we fear that they’re going to make noises […]
Living your emotional truth
We often ask ourselves. Does my anger make sense? Am I justified to feel upset? We make our reality contingent on the reality of another person. The moment we do this we lose connection with our deepest and truest self. It may be small, but it is a betrayal. We are telling ourselves that the […]
Why do I keep trying to control everything? (I know, it’s exhausting isn’t it!)
Many of us come to believe that we can control events & other people. This is not that unusual, it is after all how we first started to relate to the world as children. It’s an essential child developmental stage known as magical thinking. We see it in the little boy who jumps up and […]
A Note on Valentine’s Day & Love
Valentine’s Day is traditionally an occasion when we express our love for one person, our significant other. What if we expanded our love to encompass more than one person, so that it became a loving consciousness that includes many humans (including and especially ourselves) as well as animals, insects, plants and trees – the whole […]
