Exploring your feelings is the key to success in life + work
It’s so important to explore your feelings. I write about this often because the way I see people changing is through ‘feeling work’. I’ve not seen it work many other ways. I know that if you hold down a demanding job and/or life you think that going into your feelings is dangerous territory. You’re scared you’re […]
This is for anyone who has a challenging relationship with food right now
Having any kind of challenge around food is really difficult. We can’t go teetotal on food (not without severe circumstances) so it’s something we tend to struggle with at least three times a day. This adds to how torturous and endless it feels to have an eating disorder. When we are experiencing a difficulty with […]
How to Cope with Overwhelming Feelings at Work
It’s really difficult to feel like we’re holding back tears at the photocopier, or are too anxious to focus in a meeting, or find ourselves numbly staring at our computer screen. Firstly I need to get this out of the way: it is normal to experience difficult feelings at work. If we’re going through a […]
The art of friendships
We are imperfect creatures.We forget what our friends told us.We talk about ourselves too much.We ask about others too little.We expect too much from others. And in spite of this we still balk at THEIR oddness.“God, look at her jabber on”.When in reality we all have our own brand of oddness. In this way we […]
Here’s what attitude you need to truly change
Recently I’ve been thinking a lot about how being comfortable isn’t that useful if we want to grow personally or professionally. And that in fact, it’s important to to be unsure, and confronted at times with different perspectives. It’s wonderful that the jury isn’t out,but undecided,and still in session. It shows there is a real […]
Make time for pleasure its truly the best thing we can do for ourselves
I think that experiencing pleasure has become an act of rebellion in our society.We often discount spending timelustfully enjoying food; telling silly stories with our friends; or hanging out with our families or partners.It’s considered a wastenot an effective use of time.So many of us sadly have so much guilt about these pleasures,that we’re never […]
The A-Z of Self Sabotage
Sometimes we sabotage something because we don’t really want to do it.Instead of admitting this to ourselvesand saying “no”we agree to do itbut we never really show up.Either we’re late,cancel last minute,or never become fully invested.When we do this we’re usually acting unconsciously. So we keep cancelling on a date.Because we don’t want to have […]
The Gift of Anxiety
I love what Rollo May (kick ass existential psychologist) says about anxiety. He is a real breath of fresh on the subject. So much of the prevailing talk on anxiety is about getting rid of it. When instead we need to focus on HOW to manage our anxiety. Anxiety is a very human experience. We […]
Why surviving a challenging situation without crying or expressing anger is not enlightened
Sometimes we berate ourselves for not being “strong” or for not “handling” a challenging situation. Perhaps we broke down, or our anger rose to the surface for just a moment. We make ourselves wrong for doing something truly healthy and self affirming.Being in touch with our feelings. If someone has hurt us, feeling hurt is […]
Living your emotional truth
We often ask ourselves. Does my anger make sense? Am I justified to feel upset? We make our reality contingent on the reality of another person. The moment we do this we lose connection with our deepest and truest self. It may be small, but it is a betrayal. We are telling ourselves that the […]
