Why defending ourselves doesnt work ever

Why defending ourselves doesnt work ever | Louise Gulley, Relationship Counselling & Psychotherapist in Sevenoaks, Kent

Defensiveness is an attempt to prevent an attack, but in doing so, actually creates one. Defensiveness is when we’ve not bought our partners the bananas we promised we would (some people really are that passionate about bananas), and they gently ask us if we’ve got them, and we fear that they’re going to make noises […]