Why do I keep trying to control everything? (I know, it’s exhausting isn’t it!)


Many of us come to believe that we can control events & other people. This is not that unusual, it is after all how we first started to relate to the world as children. It’s an essential child developmental stage known as magical thinking. We see it in the little boy who jumps up and … Continue reading Why do I keep trying to control everything? (I know, it’s exhausting isn’t it!)

How to Manage Difficult Feelings (It’s the opposite of what we’ve always thought).


Our emotional world is intricate and demanding. It holds the potential for a whole range of feelings, from love & joy to despair & anxiety. One of my core beliefs is that we cannot selectively choose which emotions to experience. If we avoid one feeling, we miss them all. It’s like spending our whole lives … Continue reading How to Manage Difficult Feelings (It’s the opposite of what we’ve always thought).

A Note on Valentine’s Day & Love


  Valentine’s Day is traditionally an occasion when we express our love for one person, our significant other. What if we expanded our love to encompass more than one person, so that it became a loving consciousness that includes many humans (including and especially ourselves) as well as animals, insects, plants and trees – the … Continue reading A Note on Valentine’s Day & Love