Many of us come to believe that we can control events & other people. This is not that unusual, it is after all how we first started to relate to the world as children. It’s an essential child developmental stage known as magical thinking. We see it in the little boy who jumps up and … Continue reading Why do I keep trying to control everything? (I know, it’s exhausting isn’t it!)
Our emotional world is intricate and demanding. It holds the potential for a whole range of feelings, from love & joy to despair & anxiety. One of my core beliefs is that we cannot selectively choose which emotions to experience. If we avoid one feeling, we miss them all. It’s like spending our whole lives … Continue reading How to Manage Difficult Feelings (It’s the opposite of what we’ve always thought).
Valentine’s Day is traditionally an occasion when we express our love for one person, our significant other. What if we expanded our love to encompass more than one person, so that it became a loving consciousness that includes many humans (including and especially ourselves) as well as animals, insects, plants and trees – the … Continue reading A Note on Valentine’s Day & Love
Power is often exclusively understood as the ability to overcome someone or something. What if there was ALSO another kind of power that we need in order to be truly powerful? If this kind of power had a buzz word, it would be *surrender*. Take an emotion, such as anxiety. The forceful power, the one … Continue reading
Positive thinking says that if we believe we’re amazing, we’ll be just that – amazing, and that we will be able to create great things. This kind of thinking often only creates a hangover. The kind of hangover you have when you’ve polished off a couple of bottle of wines. In thinking so high, so … Continue reading
Some of us may decide we need to be bolder, which is about taking risks more. For others of us, it could also be just the opposite, we need to learn to be more reflective before we act. No one size fits all. Often we need both. It’s about using these capacities with balance and … Continue reading The Importance of Boldness